I’m getting married! My heart is singing, and I am so full of peace and joy. My amazing fiancé put so much time, thought, and effort into planning a proposal that I would love.
It was perfect.
I woke up that morning knowing it was going to be a big day: he was going to ask my parents for their blessing to propose to me! All week long he told me he was really nervous, and that he wanted to spend the whole day with me before he went to their house. He picked me up at my apartment for church, and said he had a whole date planned for us. There was definitely a little extra tenderness in his eyes, and he could not go five minutes in church without kissing my hand or whispering something sweet in my ear. He was so kind and loving all day, but so mellow, calm, and normal that I did not think anything was happening. Little did I know that it was the day I was going to say yes to forever with Brian.
He put together a day full of special memories from our dating journey.
For lunch, he made us the same exact meal that he made on our second date: chicken, asparagus, and eggplant. It was delectable. (He is a great cook!) We sat on his porch (the same place we did on that original date) as we enjoyed the sun and breeze of the ocean. We playfully talked about how nervous and giddy we were back in those “early days.” We rested for a little bit, and then gathered our things for the next surprise of the date: reading on the bay. Mission Bay is a very special place for us, because it is where we fell in love last summer. Reading by the bay is another activity we did all of the time last summer. It had always been a dream of mine to hold the hand of the man I love one hand, and a book in the other. I never really thought it would happen because most people think reading with another person is strange. I find it incredibly endearing. I feel so blessed and special to have found someone who will sit quietly and lovingly by my side as I get lost in a book, and enjoy it simply because I do.
We were sitting in our little beach chairs with our books and enjoying the view of the sparkling water when he told me he had yet another surprise for our date! He said the books were not for us to enjoy on the sand; they were for a boat! This is yet another “memory.” He promised me back on that second date that he would take me on a little boat so I could read on the water. Since he was moving from the beach shortly, I had been secretly bummed that we never did it, thinking my chances of this incredibly romantic date were over. You can imagine my delight when he told me my boat-reading dreams were coming true.
LOOK AT THAT FACE!
The boat was very small, and also lacking oars. We had to use our own makeshift “paddles,” which were a tennis racket and a broken plastic paddle..
We paddled our way out in the water only to discover that this ancient dingy boat did not have a rudder and we were being driven by the current! I was completely oblivious to this because I was simply thrilled to be on a boat with my love. Brian began to get really stressed out, and kept saying he had to make this work. Our meager tennis racket and toy paddle were no match for the current, but Bri was determined. So what did my sweet fiancé-to-be do? He jumped in the water, literally swam our boat to a buoy, and tied us to it with a rope so we could relax and not fight the current.
I was beginning to get suspicious that something might be happening, so while he was swimming our boat to safety, I inspected our bag of goodies for anything that might resemble a ring box. (I know! I am terrible.) To my dismay, I didn’t find one. I remember thinking to myself, “Dang it! This would have been the perfect proposal!” I had to consciously fight the feeling of disappointment.
(Side note : Last year we went to a coffee shop and wrote letters to each other. We sealed them in envelopes and promised not to read them until a year had passed…)
After Brian secured our trusty boat, we were just relexing in the sunshine when he pulled out the letters that we had written to each other a year ago. His letter to me was wonderful, deep, thoughtful, full of love, and strangely prophetic. We had not even been dating four months at the time, and both of our letters expressed a desire and hope that someday we would be married.
(Reading the Letters)
After he finished reading his letter to me, he set it down and explained that he was not meeting with my parents that day because he met with them two weeks ago. (At that moment, I knew.) He told me everything he wrote in that letter was still true today and then he got down on one knee, on our old, rocking, tiny, dingy boat…
(Down on one knee)
He pulled out a plastic bag from the pocket of his board shorts (Remember he had just been in the ocean, swimming our boat out to the buoy! The poor guy was nearly in a panic as he pulled the boat with one hand, and grasped the ring in his pocket with the other, and kicked our boat through the current.) Then he showed me the most beautiful ring I had even seen and asked me to be his wife. I cried like a baby… and eventually, after the shock wore off I remembered to say “yes!”
The Perfect Ring
We got cleaned up and we went out to celebrate at the sushi place we went to on our 4th date (to continue his day of planned memories).
After dinner, he told me we had to go to my sisters so she could “see the ring,” which actually turned out to be a surprise engagement party! It was the best night of my life. The people. The joy. The beer. The decorations. He even arranged for my best friend to come down from Sacramento. My sister’s back yard was decorated like a wedding, and we celebrated our engagement with our friends and family. He pulled off an INCREDIBLE surprise.
I cannot put into words how happy I was that night.
My close friends and family knew how much this day meant to me. They waited with me, cried with me, and prayed in faith with me for years that this day would come. And then it came, and they rejoiced with me.
I looooove my ring!
We love our nieces! I am so blessed to be welcomed into such a loving family. My dad gave an incredible toast, honoring Brian as his new son.
We told the story of our proposal, and the rest of the evening, I fluttered around on a cloud.
Brian Lee, you are the one I waited for you. And you were worth it. Thank you for the perfect proposal, and the best night of my life. I love you.